First thing first and that is sex in this post. If we believe that Sex = making Love then it's passionate true love, not just an act of lust. Every thing is fair in Love. The Question is whether it is Marital or Premarital ?
Umm ...uhh... hummm ... Why ? When ? questions and answers with Different Perspectives.
"Premarital sex is a sexual activity practiced by persons who are unmarried." Now this wiki-definition is so ambiguous. Persons can be of opposite gender or of same gender. If persons i.e. lovers are of same gender then in many countries they are not permitted to marry. In that case, what option they have other than Premarital sex ?
Premarital sex , Yes or No ... both options have Pros and Cons. Almost all would agree that, Premarital sex among adults who love, trust and are loyal to each other, who are ready to shoulder the responsibility is Capital YES while Premarital sex among children ( below 18 years of age ), who are physically, mentally, economically dependent on their parents is Capital NO.
Premarital sex among the adult-bachelors is some-what common in metro-cities all over the World. In today's MOM-age I mean Mars Orbiter Mission-age, not Mother-age, adults are so busy with their careers that they hardly have time to think about settling down. Young generation work hard to achieve their fluorescent dreams. Naturally they want to party harder with their friends , partners , sweethearts etc. to alleviate their slogging. Music, Dance, Drinks and Dear, loving partner all make for such a heady combination. In such euphoric parties, love-making i.e. sex is common phenomena , where the partners are not yet married. Not married but love, trust and loyal to each other.
Most of the times, marriage hurdles the ascending career-graph of the girls. The married girls have to do household daily chores , cook food , look after children well as elders. The wives from conservative families are not allowed to stay late in the office. So the girls delay the marriage, even though they have a boyfriend. In such cases, premarital sex happens. The only word of caution here will be 'Take care of yourself and your loyal, loving and trusting partner. Safe Sex is the key-word for premarital sex'
As far as Indian boys are concerned, they have extra responsibility of buying apartments, cars, furniture, jewelry etc. for the bride. Young people find it difficult to incur heavy expenses for the big, fat Karan Johar style extravagant wedding ceremonies. After all, all bachelors are not lucky like Arpita, to have Salman Khan as a Bhai to gift them the Taj-Falaknuma-Palace -wedding. In such situations, what choice do the young people have than the premarital sex with their loyal lover?
Let's take an example of a girl and a boy who love each other. They love each other, but their families don't stand each other because of differences in caste, cultures, religions etc. In this scenario , what option does the couple have ? Even if their respective families agree for the match , but in the space-starved cities they don't have their own home, then where would they stay post-marriage ? In such cases premarital sex is totally acceptable as the couple will certainly marry for their eternal love, in near future.
Premarital sex is considered taboo in many cultures and considered a sin in almost all religions. It became more commonly accepted in developed / Western European countries like Spain, Germany, France etc. in the last few decades. It was sort of aftermath of industrial revolution. As the large scale production boosted economy, people became more materialistic.
" No Sex Please, We are Indians " has been the foreigners' point of view about Indians. If we look at the alarming population growth in India, it's evident that sex is happening. But it's not Premarital. You may say ' Oh how bourgeois !' My personal view is ' Nay - No -Never , PreMarital sex is DANGER , avoid it like a Cancer '